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Above all, swingers are determinedly ethical people. They strive
to preserve marriages and partnerships, not to break them. They want
security for their children. They behave and dress respectably in
their daytime life so as ‘not to frighten the horses’ or
cause distress.
In acknowledging that they want more from life than one sexual partner
and a continuously waning passion, they are tacitly acknowledging
many other factors – the decline of the extended family and
the need for a place within a society, the prolongation of active
life (in 1800, life expectancy in England, the world’s richest
country, was 36 years old – barely long enough for marriage
and childrearing. Today it is 76), the development of easy and reliable
contraception, the emancipation of women and recognition of our sexuality)
and thinking ‘outside the box’ to find an appropriate
response.
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They are not, however, rejecting the social constructs
which they deem worthwhile – a secure home for children, an
enduring relationship founded upon mutual responsibility, knowledge
and trust, a stable society in which the wishes of all are respected.
They are, in fact, behaving precisely as free-thinking aristocrats – and
their modern successors, film-stars and rock-stars – have behaved
throughout history, only with considerably more regard for courtesy
and convention.
Irresponsibility v freedom from responsibility – the
sportsman, the warrior…
Fat people. Diet and sex related…
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